Don’t let him bother you

by Kim Hess on January 26, 2012

For all the ex-wives who deal with controlling, mean ex-husbands:

“Why do you let him bother you?  As inconsequential as a fly, just swat him away-flies eventually go away, eventually dying, when conditions become inhospitable.”

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You’re not missing anything out there

by Kim Hess on January 25, 2012

You’re not missing anything out there.

Love will find you when he’s ready.

And more importantly when you’re ready.

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by Kim Hess on January 22, 2012

Yesterday was a sad day for me.

First I find out that Heidi Klum and Seal are getting divorced. Damn.

Then, it is revealed to me that Kenny G and his wife are calling it quits. Dayum!!

How much divorce can one Divorce Guru take in one day? (Technically lots, but that’s not the point here.  Dramatic effect.)

I don’t know why these couples are getting divorced but it’s always sad to know that the love is no longer there for a couple.

No papers have been filed yet by Klum or hubby Seal, but it seems like it’s only a matter of days before it becomes official.

And why are people so mean when commenting on the demise of another’s marriage?  The comments from the HuffPost article range from Klum marrying him for his celebrity and money (wasn’t she already famous and monied?) to her not being supportive of his career.

Remember people, you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors.  People get married for all kinds of reasons, they get divorced for all kinds of reasons.

And ending on that note (get it “note” he plays notes for a living?  I crack myself up!)  let’s pause for a moment of silence to honor all of the fallen marriages with the smooth soundings of Mr. Kenny G:

Your heart will go on my curly haired angel, your heart will go on.

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Stop trying to replace love

by Kim Hess on January 19, 2012

Stop it.

Stop trying to replace love.

Those guys you’re sleeping with? You’re not sexually free, just starved for attention.

And love.

You’re better than that.  Stop trying to replace love and figure out how to love yourself.

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You need to move on if…

January 18, 2012

  You need to move on especially if you have little kids.  Especially if you want to be happy.  Especially if you want to live a good life…a better life. It is better for both you and your ex to start dating and socializing with other people rather than hating each other. This way, healing [...]

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Whatever the cause of your divorce, you can get through it

January 17, 2012

These days, divorce is as common as marriage. You hear about someone getting married one day, you hear about someone getting divorced the next day. Usually not the same marriage. Unless you’re Kim Kardashian. (Sorry, couldn’t resist,  I do love me some Kim K,but she was married for like 2 days!) Yet, with all of [...]

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Your Ex wants the best for you

January 12, 2012

What if your ex wanted the very best for you? What if he was truly happy that you’re making more money, found a good guy and lost 10 pounds from eating salads at lunch instead of Philly cheesesteaks? Would your feelings about him and your divorce/breakup change for the better? Let’s just pretend that he [...]

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Dating after Divorce: Divorcees and Dating Services

November 25, 2011

*Today’s Guest Post is written by Debbie Lamedman  from DatingServices.net.   There are no two ways about it:  divorce is both painful and traumatizing.  The last thing you may want to do after going through a divorce is start perusing dating websites.  Well, it’s best to wait until you are absolutely ready; but when you [...]

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What about my baggage? Dating after disappointments or divorce

August 7, 2011

*Today’s guest post is written by Amanda Kidd.   Not every marriage is successful. Often, after marriage, people discover differences among each other that make the relationship difficult. A divorce or separation always comes with a huge amount of baggage, both physical and psychological. It is difficult to deal with the idea that you will [...]

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Black men and marriage-why not?

August 3, 2011

I was recently a guest on the awesome radio show “One Man One Woman” heard exclusively on Talktainment Radio.  The topic of the day was “Black Men and Marriage.” The stats show that black men and women are the least likely of any group in America to get married.  What’s going on?  And from what [...]

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