I was sitting at the bus stop waiting for public transport to take me home after getting my groceries for dinner.  Since I live in San Francisco and I have a kind face, a homeless man wheeled up to me to ask for money.  His wheelchair as well as his filthy three piece  wool suit was decked out in  colorful mardi gras beads and he had various tubes coming out of his nose… that were hooked up to nothing (it is San Francisco after all!)  Anyway, he wheeled up to me and asked me if I had and money to spare.  I said sorry I didn’t.  He then looked at me in disbelief, looked at my two grocery bags then started to wheel himself away.  He must have changed his mind, because he ever so slowly wheeled himself backwards and asked me, with an intense look in his beady, cloudy eyes…”Got any rosaries?”

Even for San Francisco I thought this was an odd request but me being me (kind face and all) politely stated that I was not in possession of any rosaries and to have a good day.  Rosary guy just looked at me and asked me “How can I do that?  How can I have a good day?”  Man this guy is full of questions!  And where is that bus?  I was never going to to get rid of him!  But as I have been trying to practice patience since my divorce, I pushed aside my frustration and realized my new homeless wheelchair bound friend with the rosary fetish had actually asked me a great question.  One we should all ask ourselves every day. How CAN I have a good day?

I have a few hints but it’s your job to come up with the rest.  Smile.  Take a few deep breaths.  Gaze at the clouds.  Practice patience when dealing with the homeless, ex husbands and wives and slow pizza delivery guys. Be glad you can walk.  And if you are in a similar situation as my newfound homeless wheelchair bound friend just be glad you are alive.

Whether you are divorced, lonely, tired, homeless or in need of money and rosaries (or all of the above!) be glad to be among the living and in control of how you live your life. That’s how you can do that.  That’s how you can have a good day… and dancing around naked in the living room to Cyndi Lauper songs won’t hurt either!

When Kim isn’t dancing around naked in the privacy of her own home, she is working on Divorce Guru at www.kimhess.com.

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