are you a MILF?
I am a huge fan of this blog “…And That’s Why You’re Single.” I started reading it…well…after I became single. If you don’t know what MILF is Google it. Check out today’s question and your Divorce Guru’s two cents on the matter. Read the entire blog post here.
November 15, 2009 How Come Men Assume She’s a MILF? Name: redhotmama | | Location: montclair , nj |Question: am really enjoying your blog….and i know that as a single woman, your “take” on things and your “dating pool” is a bit different than mine. i’m a recently divorced mom with 2 kids on the basketball circuit, which puts me in touch with many single dads as well as young coaching staff. although i’m not really actively looking for a heavy relationship at this time, i am noticing that ALOT of men are approaching me about “casually” getting together. even one of my closest friends, who was formerly my son’s basketball coach. and although i tell them how flattered i am (some are as young as 23) and tell them that i’m looking for something more than a one night stand, they get upset with me. so much so that in a few instances they’ve stopped talking to me for a few weeks til they get over it. moxie: am wondering why i’m suddenly the hottest thing in the world for the NSA crowd and why they are so upset with me when i tell them “no! i want more.” btw i dress anything but provocatively (think t-necks, jeans and running shoes) although i guess in hindsight the “no! i want more! is an excellent filter”…if someone really wanted ME they wouldn’t be deterred. what do you think? red hot mama in montclair |Age: 40
Kim Hess Divorce Guru says:
Red Hot Mama,
You asked Moxie:
“am wondering why i’m suddenly the hottest thing in the world for the NSA crowd and why they are so upset with me when i tell them “no! i want more.”
Because you put it out there. As others have mentioned you’re giving off a STRONG vibe that you are…oh, a red hot mama! Maybe they’re upset because you were giving off of these signals of “NSA” and then suddenly turn them down and get them offended after turning them on and giving them the green light.
Who am I to judge? Because I’ve been in your shoes. Recently divorced, two sons, basketball circuit, hot. Couldn’t understand why I was suddenly “the hottest thing in the world for the NSA crowd.” Well, I was practically yelling, “I’m single, I’m hot, and I’m desperate.” If you don’t like this type of attention, take the advice of others here and have a platonic male friend tell you what’s up. ‘Cause something’s up, but you can change all that and find a great relationship if you choose. Wishing you well.
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