Divorced dating…racetrack crash course?

Posted on January 21st, 2010 at 1:20 pm by Kim Hess

Divorced dating is like a race

I’m divorced dating…you know, dating while divorced. There are many similarities and many differences to getting back on the horse after divorce and dating while never having been married. Is dating after divorce better or worse? Let me break it down for you.

Divorced dating is better. Period. Why? You’ve already been there done that. For me, your Divorce Guru, if I look at my life it’s pretty darn good. Yes, I went through a horrific break up, major life changes, and comforting my kids through it all. But the good side? I’ve already been married. I have two wonderful sons. I’ve already chosen the father of my children, and the choice was a great one. I’ve already found the love of my life…well, that life! Now that I have a new life (hot divorcee) I’ll find a new love. Or two. Or three. Point is, if I did it once I’ll do it again. Let me give you a crude example.

I’m a race car driver. I know the thrill, the exhilaration of going fast, rounding the corners, the adrenaline of doing something exciting. Then I crash. Bad. Car catches on fire, the fans at the racetrack stand to their feet and gasp. I get pulled from the wreckage, dazed, coughing, (but still looking beautiful) and get rushed to the hospital. I recover, hopefully after many cute doctors giving me massages, physical therapy, and Vicoden…no male nurses please, been there done that. After taking it easy for a while and nurturing my wounds, and being grateful that I’m still able to race (love), I’m released from the hospital. And what do I want to do? Race my car again! Even after the terrible, fiery crash! Divorced dating in a nutshell.

I’ve got more experience after racing and crashing. The crash was bad, but not as bad as never racing a fast car again. Divorced dating is taking a chance. You’ve been a champion before, you’ll be a champion again. You’ve loved before, you’ll love again.

So listen to your Divorce Guru and hop in the driver’s seat, strap on your seat belt, and go get back in the divorced dating race. You’ve got lots of laps so don’t be discouraged before you reach the finish line. Which is the finish line of love! (wow, that line was even a little too sappy and cheesy for me!)