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Don’t let him bother you

by Kim Hess on January 26, 2012

For all the ex-wives who deal with controlling, mean ex-husbands: “Why do you let him bother you?  As inconsequential as a fly, just swat him away-flies eventually go away, eventually dying, when conditions become inhospitable.”

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You’re not missing anything out there

by Kim Hess on January 25, 2012

You’re not missing anything out there. Love will find you when he’s ready. And more importantly when you’re ready.

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by Kim Hess on January 22, 2012

Yesterday was a sad day for me. First I find out that Heidi Klum and Seal are getting divorced. Damn. Then, it is revealed to me that Kenny G and his wife are calling it quits. Dayum!! How much divorce can one Divorce Guru take in one day? (Technically lots, but that’s not the point [...]

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Stop trying to replace love

by Kim Hess on January 19, 2012

Stop it. Stop trying to replace love. Those guys you’re sleeping with? You’re not sexually free, just starved for attention. And love. You’re better than that.  Stop trying to replace love and figure out how to love yourself.

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You need to move on if…

by Kim Hess on January 18, 2012

  You need to move on especially if you have little kids.  Especially if you want to be happy.  Especially if you want to live a good life…a better life. It is better for both you and your ex to start dating and socializing with other people rather than hating each other. This way, healing [...]

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These days, divorce is as common as marriage. You hear about someone getting married one day, you hear about someone getting divorced the next day. Usually not the same marriage. Unless you’re Kim Kardashian. (Sorry, couldn’t resist,  I do love me some Kim K,but she was married for like 2 days!) Yet, with all of [...]

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Your Ex wants the best for you

by Kim Hess on January 12, 2012

What if your ex wanted the very best for you? What if he was truly happy that you’re making more money, found a good guy and lost 10 pounds from eating salads at lunch instead of Philly cheesesteaks? Would your feelings about him and your divorce/breakup change for the better? Let’s just pretend that he [...]

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Dating after Divorce: Divorcees and Dating Services

by Kim Hess on November 25, 2011

*Today’s Guest Post is written by Debbie Lamedman  from DatingServices.net.   There are no two ways about it:  divorce is both painful and traumatizing.  The last thing you may want to do after going through a divorce is start perusing dating websites.  Well, it’s best to wait until you are absolutely ready; but when you [...]

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*Today’s guest post is written by Amanda Kidd.   Not every marriage is successful. Often, after marriage, people discover differences among each other that make the relationship difficult. A divorce or separation always comes with a huge amount of baggage, both physical and psychological. It is difficult to deal with the idea that you will [...]

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Black men and marriage-why not?

by Kim Hess on August 3, 2011

I was recently a guest on the awesome radio show “One Man One Woman” heard exclusively on Talktainment Radio.  The topic of the day was “Black Men and Marriage.” The stats show that black men and women are the least likely of any group in America to get married.  What’s going on?  And from what [...]

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