A Note To Share And Maybe You Can Relate

Today’s post is written by a friend of mine, Rie Kang, who sent out this diary/blog entry to her friends in the hopes that other would benefit. I received it, benefited and related. Hope you can relate as well…
-DG

A note to share and maybe you can relate..

by Rie Kang

Accept peace, joy, and love into your life

How do people deal with anger, insecurities and power?

Do they voice what they feel or do they project their emotions by hiding them inward, holding their power in silence, or do they turn their words into an attack?

Or do they slide back and hide, hibernate or fall away? Now that I’m in my thirties, I’m just starting to learn about my power and my negotiating skills in a way, that serves me better. In the past, I would adhere or oblige the men of status or people in my life, according to their needs, not mine. And often, I felt under served, taken for granted or disregarded, yet I didn’t feel powerful enough to speak out or improve my situation. My negotiating skills were poor. But then, that was due to my own sense of lack. That I was at a disadvantage, somehow. And in some ways, I was. I put myself there. And just like that, I have learned to put myself elsewhere. In a more safer, loving and nurturing place where I call the shots. But no less fair, to another. I’m not a power hungry hog, nor am I unappreciative of another’s gesture or good will. But when it comes to the balance, in a relationship…I am more apt to do what is best for me, instead of sacrificing my own sense of comfort and dignity.

While I seem to have less patience for the shenanigans and promises that fall empty…say what you do and do what you say idea, I walk a fine line and also remember that somewhere within me lies compassion and understanding. So, it is this constant re-balancing act. Faith, hope, intelligence and love. And, adaptability to change. The key ingredients to get you by, in life. And my family and teachers taught me that a long time ago. But I feel like I’m just remembering again. Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Do you feel as though you deserve respect and honor? Do you want affection and love? Do you want someone to be open to your perceptions? Do you want to be understood? Do you want to be criticized or judged, or do you want it less so? Do you want loyalty, movement, growth, or do you want to have to wait forever, for receptivity? It’s all how you perceive your world and what you expect from it. What you believe, and what you follow through with, in order to get something in return. You can’t just take and not give. I’m reminding myself, that even though I’m not completely consistent, I try to be honest with myself first. With not just my thoughts but my emotions, even for a microsecond. And instead of pointing the finger, I need to feel free to use my own advice and apply it. It’s amazing at how critical human nature can be, even towards ourselves. As endlessly philosophical as we can be, we’re still adjusting to align our hearts and minds, as one.

Less fear, doubt, anxiety….and more hope, faith, love, health and prosperity.

Rie Kang facilitates the Feline Linx Meetup in San Francisco, CA and has her own holistic massage practice. You can email her at: rientherapy@gmail.com. You can read more of her musings at: riebee.wordpress.com