Comments on: Divorce and children http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/ dating, relationships, sex, and divorce Sat, 24 Jul 2010 06:46:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: BishopHollie28 http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-169 BishopHollie28 Sat, 03 Apr 2010 02:42:38 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-169 It is great that people can take the <a href="http://lowest-rate-loans.com/topics/home-loans" rel="nofollow">home loans</a> and it opens new possibilities. It is great that people can take the home loans and it opens new possibilities.

]]> By: Paul H http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Paul H Mon, 15 Feb 2010 08:18:12 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-137 Awesome!! Awesome!!

]]> By: Kim Hess http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-132 Kim Hess Sun, 14 Feb 2010 23:27:21 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-132 Will gladly review it Paul! <a href="www.kimhess.com" rel="nofollow">Kim Hess Divorce Guru</a> Will gladly review it Paul!

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]]> By: Paul H http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-127 Paul H Fri, 12 Feb 2010 23:14:33 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-127 Thanks for the kind words Kim. What I wrote was a small extract from a book I'm writing on the subject of Dads and divorce. I'd love you to review it when I'm finished. Thanks for the kind words Kim. What I wrote was a small extract from a book I’m writing on the subject of Dads and divorce. I’d love you to review it when I’m finished.

]]> By: Kim Hess http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-122 Kim Hess Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:53:07 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-122 Ah, now I gotcha Paul H! It would be fantastic to have all men playing an active part in their children's lives! Good, good point, and thanks for being an advocate for dads and their kids. We need more dads like you! Ah, now I gotcha Paul H! It would be fantastic to have all men playing an active part in their children’s lives! Good, good point, and thanks for being an advocate for dads and their kids. We need more dads like you!

]]> By: Paul H http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-120 Paul H Sat, 06 Feb 2010 01:33:43 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-120 I knew you'd disagree with that, Kim ;-) I also agree with you that children DO need the man in their life to discipline them correctly, my perspective is about a dad BEING in their life in the first place. In many cases it's a matter of developing the tools required to move TO that point. Love your work x I knew you’d disagree with that, Kim ;-)

I also agree with you that children DO need the man in their life to discipline them correctly, my perspective is about a dad BEING in their life in the first place. In many cases it’s a matter of developing the tools required to move TO that point.

Love your work x

]]> By: Kim Hess http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Kim Hess Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:53:49 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-117 Thanks for your comment Paul H. Dad's do need to realize that just because you and your ex-spouse are divorced doesn't mean you give up your kids. Though, I do have to disagree w/ Paul H. on his view of discipline...your children DO need the man in their life to discipline them correctly and with love...this is another way of showing you care about their well being! Kudos to the father of my boys for being and excellent father who, despite divorcing me, has not divorced his children. And that's the only compliment he gets from me today! Kim Hess Divorce Guru has mad love for divorced dads who take care of their kids!! Thanks for your comment Paul H. Dad’s do need to realize that just because you and your ex-spouse are divorced doesn’t mean you give up your kids. Though, I do have to disagree w/ Paul H. on his view of discipline…your children DO need the man in their life to discipline them correctly and with love…this is another way of showing you care about their well being!

Kudos to the father of my boys for being and excellent father who, despite divorcing me, has not divorced his children. And that’s the only compliment he gets from me today! Kim Hess Divorce Guru has mad love for divorced dads who take care of their kids!!

]]> By: Paul H http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Paul H Sat, 30 Jan 2010 07:20:11 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-110 Response from a Dad and a message to other Dads! You are divorcing your ex, not your kids. Understand that and tell yourself over and over! Now is the opportunity to really revere the time with your kids. Many dads in their marriage are so busy working to provide for their family, they don’t have the quality time with their kids that they would like or should have. As a divorced dad, there are some real bonuses here when you spend time with your kids. Depending on the amount of time you get to spend with your kids, often the father has significantly less than half time. If this is the case for you, be the fun parent! You don’t need to take on the role of disciplinarian with the kids, just enjoy every moment you can with them and make it fun. Think what you would like your ideal dad to be and be that with your kids! Quality time takes on a whole new perspective when you only see your kids occasionally, so make the most of it! Will they be all revved up when they go back to their mother? Possibly. Will your ex whine and complain that you are not disciplining them enough? Probably. Will the kids have a great time when they come to see you? Absolutely! Now keep this in perspective! It is not a free for all to make your kids total psychos when they go back to the other parent, because that is not helpful for the welfare of the kids. What I'm talking about here is having FUN!! Do things with your kids and squeeze every bit of quality into the time you have with them. Response from a Dad and a message to other Dads!

You are divorcing your ex, not your kids. Understand that and tell yourself over and over!
Now is the opportunity to really revere the time with your kids. Many dads in their marriage are so busy working to provide for their family, they don’t have the quality time with their kids that they would like or should have.
As a divorced dad, there are some real bonuses here when you spend time with your kids. Depending on the amount of time you get to spend with your kids, often the father has significantly less than half time. If this is the case for you, be the fun parent! You don’t need to take on the role of disciplinarian with the kids, just enjoy every moment you can with them and make it fun. Think what you would like your ideal dad to be and be that with your kids! Quality time takes on a whole new perspective when you only see your kids occasionally, so make the most of it!
Will they be all revved up when they go back to their mother? Possibly. Will your ex whine and complain that you are not disciplining them enough? Probably. Will the kids have a great time when they come to see you? Absolutely!
Now keep this in perspective! It is not a free for all to make your kids total psychos when they go back to the other parent, because that is not helpful for the welfare of the kids. What I’m talking about here is having FUN!! Do things with your kids and squeeze every bit of quality into the time you have with them.

]]> By: Divorce to Happiness http://www.kimhess.com/coping-with-divorce/divorce-and-children/comment-page-1/#comment-93 Divorce to Happiness Fri, 22 Jan 2010 16:21:08 +0000 http://kimhess.com/?p=597#comment-93 I too am a mother. My Ex and I also share the children 50-50. I will tell you that I too have tried very hard to imagine what goes through the child's minds and hearts every Friday when they change households. My children are 15 13 and 9. And we have lived this way for 3 years. I know my children need their father. We each have now moved on and are in new relationships. I know that in the beginning we tried to have one family meal together a week. But it soon became apparent that it was giving the children false hope, to their parent getting back together. So we stopped. So as loving parents who truly want the best for their children, we will try just about anything and everything to give the some happiness, in a time in their lives that everything in their world is changing. I too am a mother. My Ex and I also share the children 50-50. I will tell you that I too have tried very hard to imagine what goes through the child’s minds and hearts every Friday when they change households. My children are 15 13 and 9. And we have lived this way for 3 years. I know my children need their father. We each have now moved on and are in new relationships. I know that in the beginning we tried to have one family meal together a week. But it soon became apparent that it was giving the children false hope, to their parent getting back together. So we stopped.

So as loving parents who truly want the best for their children, we will try just about anything and everything to give the some happiness, in a time in their lives that everything in their world is changing.

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