When you tell people you are getting a divorce, a look of remorse and pity instantly comes across their faces. Of course, most of us instantly match their pained expressions with our own “woe is me” face complete with downcast eyes followed by “It’s hard but I’ll be okay.” Sound familiar?
Well damn it, stop it! Next time someone asks how your ex spouse is doing you pipe up with “I’m divorcing the jerk, hallelujah!” Smile a happy smile, and start laughing. You’re asking me, “Kim, what am I laughing about?” Glad you asked.
You’re laughing because you no longer have to put up with their crap. Their nagging, you all the time, silly complaints, annoying habits, sexless nights, spending habits, cheating, lying, lack of ambition, lack of time, unappreciativeness, lateness, arrogance…the list could go on and on and on. Just pick the one thing you detested about your ex spouse. Just one. Got it? Okay. Start laughing. Why? Because YOU no longer have to deal with it! You don’t have to try to apologize to anyone for it, you don’t have to excuse it, you don’t have to patiently pretend it doesn’t disturb you…it’s no longer your problem!
Let’s say your ex wife nagged you about the way you drive. Start laughing; you’ll never have to hear her complain about you driving too fast again! Did you have a husband who told you not to put so much sugar in your coffee because bikini season is coming? Start laughing; you never have to feel guilty or mad at him again. Why? You don’t have to deal with his criticisms anymore. Let him criticize someone else, as long as it’s not you.
My point is there are some good points to divorce. You no longer have to deal with what you can’t stand about your ex. I just want you to start laughing at them!
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About the Author:
Kim is the co-author of "From Ex to Next! An Empowered Woman's Guide to Dating After Breakup or Divorce." She is also the host of "Divorce Guru" radio show host, as well as the National Divorce columnist for the Examiner.com Kim lives in San Francisco, CA and is the proud mother of two very energetic, very wonderful boys.