dump the mom jeans, get these sexy jeans for your 1st date!
So now you’re divorced and ready to start dating again. Bet you never imagined you’d have to get back out there in the trenches again! I assumed that when I got married, I would never have to date again, let alone have to deal with first dates! Since I’m a Divorce Guru, I’m going to give you some much needed dating after divorce adviceto make your new (or not so new) dating after divorce life painless and perhaps a lot of fun!
Keep It Short
No marathon dates. Yeah, you may have chatted on the phone, sent a few instant messaged, emailed, and may have even exchanged text messages that you find witty and amusing. All of this communication does not mean you know the guy well enough to want to spend the next 5 hours with him. Have an exit strategy. Keep it short. Trust me this was the best dating after divorce advice that I was ever given.
You may meet in person and totally not dig his greaser 1950’s hairstyle (happened to me) or notice his effeminate hand gestures (again, happened to me!) or become suddenly overwhelmed by his beady eyes or horrific breath. So play it safe and meet for drinks, meet for coffee, but don’t meet for dinner! If you like the guy, then dinner plans can always be made later. We all gotta eat!
Invest in Sexy Jeans
You know what sexy jeans are. Those jeans that make your legs look longer, your butt look perkier, and make you instantly the sexiest woman in the room. Yeah those jeans.
Not only are jeans perfect for almost any first date (remember we’re keeping it to an hour with coffee or glass of wine), but they convey youth, fun, and a type of laid back demeanor.
Imagine showing up to a first date in a tight dress, stilettos, and glittery handbag-with this look it tells your date you’re trying too hard. You don’t have to try so hard, you’re fabulous! Your sexy jeans will not only be hip and flattering, they will convey that you are at ease in your skin. Wear with a pair of heels and a great top and he will notice!
Meet in a Public Place
Don’t tell him where you live or have him pick you up at home. Dating after divorce advice contends that your safety is a priority. Really, what do you know about this guy? Yes, it may be a little paranoid, but better paranoid than driving around in a car with a guy you barely know.
Meet in a public place, like a coffee shop that’s convenient to you. It’s best to let a friend know where you are going and with who. Kim’s motto: better safe than sorry!
What NOT to talk about
Ladies, it’s one of those things that just happen. You’re chatting with your date having a good time and then…you start talking about sex or the ex. Stop right there!
Don’t talk about your ex (good or bad) and don’t ask about his ex (good or bad!) Stay away from the sex subject: he will expect you to follow up with some action even if you were just being flirty or think you’re a major slut (as opposed to a minor slut). Oh, he’ll still have sex with you, but wouldn’t count on a 2nd date.
As a bonus, I’m going to suggest you also don’t talk about marriage, how dating sucks, or how much he makes a year. My dating after divorce advice wrapped in a pretty red bow just for you. Happy dating!
Ladies
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About the Author:
Kim is the co-author of "From Ex to Next! An Empowered Woman's Guide to Dating After Breakup or Divorce." She is also the host of "Divorce Guru" radio show host, as well as the National Divorce columnist for the Examiner.com Kim lives in San Francisco, CA and is the proud mother of two very energetic, very wonderful boys.