Who says “Fatties” can’t be hot?

She's beautiful and KNOWS it!

I just wrote an article for my national divorce column for the Examiner. The title is BBC reported that a website called BeautifulPeople.com had kicked of about 5,000 members because they had gained weight over the holidays. I must mention that the founder of the website stated that they couldn’t have “fatties roaming the site.” I just wanted to be clear that Kim Hess Divorce Guru doesn’t usually use the word “fatties” in her vocab! This article caught my attention for a few reasons…one I consider myself to be beautiful and two, I consider myself to be fat.

Okay, I embellish as usual. I do consider myself to be beautiful, but not fat…maybe a little thick. Kind of overweight. I could lose a few pounds. Don’t ask, you’ll never know my weight! I wish I could blame it on having kids and pregnancy distorting my body but I can’t. I was flaunting a nice bikini body after giving birth to both my sons. I also wish I could blame it on my divorce and the mental anguish that my ex husband put me through. But, once again, I can’t. Nope he’s actually innocent on this count. My ex husband didn’t make me eat potato chips and donuts. For a time after our separation, I got motivated and was working out in a gym 4 days a week and sporting a size 6. As much as I would love to blame it on something, I just can’t…except for sheer laziness.

Anyhoo…after my divorce and actually my entire life, I felt that if I was beautiful that men (or boys) would love me and I’d have no worries. Not true. I was a beautiful size 4 when my ex-husband was cheating on me. I was a hot, svelte, toned and tight size 6 after my divorce and still couldn’t find a committed relationship. Being beautiful is not all there is to being happy, well liked or loved. I’m not bashing the site BeautifulPeople.com-we are all drawn to and want to be associated with beautiful people. And if you join a site like that, you must face the consequences if that group no longer finds you beautiful.

Find yourself beautiful on the inside whether your body is lean with a flat tummy and toned thighs or you’ve got a few extra pounds…or a few dozen extra pounds. I guarantee if you find yourself beautiful, you’ll find others who do too!

Signing off you beautiful buckaroo you,
-KHDG