Freedom...we all can get there
I sincerely apologize for my lack of posts these last few weeks. As all of you know I started this site to share my experience with divorce as well as help others heal, live in joy, and turn the challenging times and feelings of divorce into triumphs.
Which is exactly what I’ve done.
I’ve built a career and had a great deal of fun doing what I do: being your Divorce Guru. I do this by writing a national column, hosting a radio show that is heard in over 60 countries, doling out relationship advice via video blogs, and of course sharing my sometimes fun, most times excruciatingly painful dating stories with you.
After speaking with dear, dear friends and family that love me more than I can express, I’ve come to a realization. Kim Hess does not equal Divorce Guru.
I started the Divorce Guru brand to heal me. My healing is not complete, may never completely be 100%, but I have progressed. It’s been 2 years plus since the father of my children and I split up for good. If you’re divorced or going through a divorce I don’t have to explain to you the pain I went through.
That pain is done, over. My marriage is done, over. It is time for Kim Hess to move on, to move forward, to move up from walking with the label of divorce. No matter how hard I’ve tried to change the stigma, divorce is just that…a stigma that no one wants to be associated with. Divorce is the opposite of happiness, joy, fun.
Kim Hess has been hiding behind Divorce Guru. Now it’s time for me to come out from behind the clouds of being “divorced” and shine.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Marianne Williamson
This being said, Kim Hess is taking a hiatus from Divorce Guru to plot her next moves in this life. Maybe I’ll keep Divorce Guru as a company minus the Kim Hess, and continue on my quest to help people who are divorced or broken up. Maybe I’ll move to Paris and become a writer. Maybe I’ll move to a beach house and take up surfing. Either way I’ll be happy. ‘Cause I am now…and I’m still glad I got a dee-vorce (as my one friend says it!)
Love to all…
Divorce Guru
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Kim, so happy you have made this choice. I am excited for what wonderful thing is waiting around the corner for you.
Love you babe
Mike
Mike,
Honestly couldn’t have done this without you. Thanks Mike-a-sauraus!
Mikeasaurus, did you know that is the nick name for my…
OK, the banter between you and Mike is still making me blush, but I wanted to go through your posts to try to sneak a peak at what you’re up to.
I picture you as a “be a better you” kind of guru that combines the serious issues but also the fun ones like looking great and fashionable to feel better. Of course that could be good old fashion-challenged me revealing just how fashioned challenged I am. If you start sharing fashion tips I’m in!
No matter what you do, you’ll be awesome at it and I’ll remain a Kim Hess fan .
Hi Kim. I actually googled your name after seeing you on tv. I wanted to just see if I could find any info on you. WOW!!! I had no idea you were divorced. My ex husband and yours sound very much alike and yes there definitely is life after divorce! I have two friends whose husbands left them for other women after 28 years and 25 years. Trust that all of us are very much happy after our divorce. I put on 60 pounds going through my divorce and carried for years. I realized my divorce is over so why am I still carrying this weight? I lost more than 70 pounds and my ex hates it! Who cares? LOL! I wondered why it hurt me so bad. It was because I did love him very much. He wasn’t that good in bed so it had to be love, right? lol Honestly I really was in love with him and thought it would be forever but it didn’t work out. I am doing much better now. Dating and having fun. Oh yeah there are some odd ones! I have encountered them but overall I am so much happier.
Good luck and I hope the boys are doing well. You know one of them looks like you and the other one looks like Him. They are both so cute. 
I will bookmark this and I do hope you are doing ok. I know how devastating it is but the pain does fade. I know, plus I got all fine and sexy afterwards lol! 
Super good!